Monday, February 3, 2014

The 30 Best Pieces of Advice for Entrepreneurs in 2013


It started with a gap in the market.
Technology writing comes in many forms. It can be long and lyrical a laThe New Yorker. And it can be bite-size — just enough news to grab and go. What we spotted was a lack of tactical storytelling, a need for compelling, long-form writing that would equip readers with tools and hacks they can deploy immediately to build better businesses. Our response is First Round Review.
To date, we’ve featured CEOs from Jeff Weiner to Drew Houston toAaron Levie, engineering leaders tackling the world's biggest technical challenges like Amazon's James Hamilton, bold thinkers like Medium’sJason Stirman, and brilliant designers behind lovable products like Mintand Gmail. We did this with one goal in mind: To help incredible entrepreneurs share their insights and expertise so that the next wave of builders may succeed. What follows is a roundup of the 30 best pieces of advice we published this year. Take it with you into 2014, andyou may just become the next unicorn.
As for us, we’re just getting started.
Intuit Co-founder Scott Cook is very particular about who he hires. And after 30 years, he has it down to a science — including how to get the truth out of a reference check. The reality is that people want to be nice, so almost everyone will start out by saying how great the candidate is. Cook’s advice is to completely ignore this opening feedback. When they’re done, ask this: “Among all the people you’ve seen in this position, on a zero to 10 scale, where does this person rank?” If the person says seven, immediately ask why they aren’t a nine or a ten. “Then you’ll finally start learning what this person really thinks,” Cook says. He also ends every call by asking the person for other people who could speak to the candidate’s performance. The further you get away from provided references, the more valuable the data.
Dropbox Founder and CEO Drew Houston should know. By the time he applied to Y Combinator, cloud storage was already a crowded space. But he wasn’t deterred. While many entrepreneurs assume they have to be first to market to win in a category, this is almost never the case. Just look at how Google trounced Alta Vista, Yahoo, and Ask Jeeves. “The fact is that there’s a problem with being first,” Houston says. “You create a market, and if you’re too early, you essentially leave the door open behind you for someone else to do it better.” So he tuned out the naysayers, and 200 million users later, Dropbox is in the lead.
Andy Rachleff is the founder and CEO of Wealthfront, and before that a co-founder and general partner at Benchmark Capital. Having observed years of varying strategies, he developed the Wealthfront Equity Plan to align equity with employees’ contributions to the success of their companies. The tenets of the plan: Avoid cliffs, peg equity to outstanding performance (not milestones), and invest in annual evergreen grants to tie long-term tenure and hard work to ownership stakes. “Encourage employees to think about increasing the value of their options through accomplishment rather than asking for more when they complete a task,” advises Rachleff. Evergreen grants smooth out the vesting process so employees never reach a cliff. “Cliffs cause people to raise their heads and consider their alternatives. It should be avoided at all costs.”
This is one of the keys to being a great boss according to Bob Sutton, professor and management expert at Stanford’s School of Engineering. But the most important thing is being aware of yourself and your actions. When you’re in power, people start watching everything you do very closely. At the same time, you start getting more credit and/or blame than you deserve for company performance. It’s called the “magnification effect” — and it’s so strong that while data shows that leaders tend to be responsible for about 15% of outcomes, they usually get 50% of the blame or credit. As Sutton says:
When you become successful is when you should be especially wary you are going to turn into an idiot.
Todd Jackson is now the CEO of Android startup Cover. Before that, he was a product manager on Gmail and the redesign of Facebook's News Feed.
“Then break it down into an execution plan,” says Todd Jackson, one of the lead product managers behind both Gmail and Facebook News Feed, and now co-founder of Android startup Cover. To rally his troops behind feature changes, he would make mockups showing what the future could look like, and use them to tell a narrative. To gain buy-in for a News Feed redesign, he made the product personal. “Your friends are posting so much awesome content,” he told them. “What if we made it look so good that people looked at twice as many stories a day? If that happened, people would spend twice as much time on the site. People would get twice as many likes, and we’d get twice the revenue. This is something users are going to love. This is something your friends and family are going to love.” If you get engineers excited about what could be, they’ll work hard to make it happen, Jackson says.
“When you get lucky, it’s because you didn’t know what was going to happen. The corollary is, if you know what’s going to happen then there is no luck. There is no uncertainty and there is no risk.” David Friedberg, founder and CEO of The Climate Corporation, always favored certainty over luck — and this year he sold his company for $1 billion. Of course every business comes with a degree of risk. You don’t know where your market is headed, what your competitors are planning, even whether people will buy your product. But the more of these uncertainties you can identify, the easier it is to take them off the table. “Identify the unknown, mitigate the unknown,” Friedberg says. “Only then can you enable the outcomes you want and increase the value of your company.”
Traditional management never quite agreed with Jason Stirman. In fact, at blogging platform Medium, he’s helping invent a culture without managers. But before that, he ran his own engineering team at Twitter and discovered some leadership hacks of his own. “I’d hear that someone on my team had a problem with someone on another team that brought everything to a standstill — just because they didn’t like each other. I thought, what if I just got them in a room together and we all talked about everything except the problem at hand? When we did, we got some casual conversation going, they discovered some similarities, and by the end of the hour they were talking about how to solve their issues. This was a conflict that literally kept me up at night, and as soon as there was space for them to connect as people, it was fixed. I thought, holy crap, this is a super power.”
Great interview questions focus on specific examples of candidates’ contributions, actions, decisions and impact, says Neil Roseman, former technology VP for both Amazon and Zynga. He suggests the following questions for every project or accomplishment a candidate mentions:
  • What was the background of what you were working on?
  • What tasks were you given?
  • What actions did you take?
  • What results did you measure?
For the best results, only bring people in who worked on projects and products that were significant to their prior companies, even if they didn’t succeed. “You want the employees that worked on important teams,” Roseman says. “Companies like Microsoft make sure to get the best people on the highest profile products.”
Brooke Hammerling, founder of Brew Media Relations, has become the go-to startup whisperer when it comes to getting press. And if she has one piece of advice it’s this: Find your company’s story and stick with it. To help her clients nail down their message, she separates the stakeholders and fires questions at them about the product: “What are you? Why are you? Who are you? What problem are you soling and why should people care right now?” What does each person say? Where are the differences? Where are the overlaps? This is how a narrative comes together. But a startup can run this strategy without an agency or communications team. “Come up with your own ideas, compare notes, develop it together,” says Hammerling. “You might end up somewhere you didn’t predict.”
Brooke Hammerling, Founder, Brew Media Relations.
Jonathan Rosenberg defined Google’s product strategy for nearly 10 years. He has a lot of rules for great managers, but the underpinning of leadership needs to be transparency. “At Google, our default mode was to share all information,” he says. “We strived to empower everyone equally. In the internet age, power comes from sharing information, not hoarding it.” Employees like being trusted and hate being surprised. A policy of complete transparency feeds these needs. Rosenberg's rule of thumb:
Back up your position with data. You don't win arguments by saying, 'I think.' You win by saying, 'Let me show you.'
“Good engineering is about finding the most cost-effective solution to a problem, whether it’s measured in dollars, hours, morale or lost opportunities,” says Kris Gale, VP of engineering at Yammer. “But some costs are less obvious than others. Among the most dangerously unconsidered costs is complexity cost — the debt you accrue by complicating features or technology in order to solve problems.” An app that does 20 things will always be more difficult to refactor than an app that does one thing, so changes to its code will take longer. In software engineering, complexity cost is introduced in both product design and implementation, but PMs, QA and developers should all be ready to bust it when they see it. If they don’t, that cost is passed along to users, who you may end up losing simply by adding too much.
“There is no better way to enforce culture and values than by who you hire,” says Brett Hurt, co-founder and former CEO of BazaarVoice. The individuals you choose to bring onto the team speak volumes, highlighting the traits perceived to be the most valuable for the organization. The same is applicable to firing. “If you fire brilliant jerks, it says to everybody, ‘That’s not going to be condoned.’ If you hire people who have real passion and who love your calling, it’s going to feed on itself,” he says.
13) Make decisions fast and early. Especially when it comes to people.
“The longer someone works for you, the harder it is to change their behavior,” says Michael Lopp, head of People Ops at Palantir. “The longer you don’t deal with something, the less likely you can fix it.” Known to the blogosphere as Rands, Lopp has become somewhat of an expert on managing performance and knowing when to cut people loose. His number one recommendation: “Fix situations as soon as you see them going wrong.” In the end, poor performers end up costing you three to five times more than you think — including your credibility as a leader.
If you're leading a team, your job is your people.
Michael Lopp speaking at First Round's 2013 CTO Summit.
Max Levchin is known for many things, among them building one of the best engineering teams in tech history at PayPal. His counter-intuitive contention: Diversity of thought can slow startups down right when speed is their most valuable weapon. “Working solo is the most efficient way to operate,” he says. So when you start to grow, it only makes sense to hold on to this ethos by keeping teams small and on the same page. “The moment a software team wastes time debating which version of Python to use, it’s lost its nimble edge.” To build this early, like-minded team, Levchin took some advice from co-founder Peter Thiel: He wrote down every brilliant person he knew in college. “It turned out to be a list of about 30, and we ended up hiring about 24 of those,” he says. “Then that team was forced to write down everybody smart they knew that they were absolutely confident we could never hire. We went after them like banshees and they would eventually crack.”
“A lot of people say don’t fire great engineers, but they’re wrong,” saysJoe Stump, lead architect at Digg and co-founder of SimpleGeo. “It only takes one asshole to destroy an entire team.” You should fire them immediately, he says. And after that, take on the employees with hero syndrome. “You know, that guy who leaves on Friday and comes back on Monday exclaiming, ‘Hey! I re-wrote the whole site!’” Heroes burn out or they crush team dynamics when they go off and do their own things. Stump prescribes mandatory vacations. Lastly, you have the technical zealots. “The ones who think every screw needs to be tightened with Rails. If you allow your engineers to become zealots, it will force you down a path of only hiring specialists. You don’t want to get into arguments around technical religion. You want to use the best tool for any given problem.” Keep an eye out for zealotry and require flexibility.
Airbnb almost wasn’t. Early on, they had a bunch of listings up but no one was biting, growth stalled, and they didn’t know why. That’s when Co-founder Joe Gebbia spied a pattern: the photos all sucked. “You couldn’t even really see what you would be paying for,” he said. The solution (courtesy of advisor Paul Graham): Go to New York, rent a fancy camera, and replace the amateur photography. There was no data backing this decision. They just did it, and a week later the results were in: improving the pictures doubled the company’s weekly revenue — the first improvement they had seen in almost a year. Initially, Gebbia says the team thought everything they did had to be scalable. It was only when they gave themselves permission to experiment with something non-scaleable that they hit a turning point.
Most use these terms interchangeably and fail to implement them beyond executive lip service. But LinkedIn CEO Jeff Weiner is convinced that clearly defining both and living by them every day was key to the company surpassing 200 million users. “Vision is the dream, a company’s true north. It’s what you constantly need to be aspiring to,” he says. He defines LinkedIn’s as “Creating economic opportunity for every professional.” Mission, on the other hand, needs to be expressed in terms of concrete objectives, and a company can and should measure how well it achieves them. Along these lines, LinkedIn’s mission is “Connecting the world’s professionals to make them more productive and successful.” Many startups only have one or the other, but a vision without reference to what the company actually does is unmoored from reality, and will fail to inspire and organize the people who work there.
When most people approach hiring, they look for the equivalent of a third baseman who bats .320, hits 40 home runs, 120 RBIs and who’s won a Golden Glove, says former Square COO Keith Rabois. “If you think you’re going to hire someone like that at the early stage, you’re just kidding yourself. This means you need to hire people who are a little less proven. If you think someone could one day bat .320 but hasn’t had the chance, hire them. Because once they do bat .320, you probably won’t be able to.” Rabois put this in action by pulling in a large first intern class at Square. Of the 17 interns recruited, he says four were probably on par with the top 10 to 20% of full-time employees. The whole program was worth it just to have access to that talent.
Keith Rabois at First Round's CEO Summit.
As the founder of IdeaLabBill Gross has backed and advised 100+ companies and overseen 35 successful IPOs and acquisitions. To make it to the promised land, he says, you need to build a team with four types of people with varying strengths, ideally in large doses:
  • Entrepreneurs: The idea people who explore what it takes to get ideas of the ground.
  • Producers: The doers who push projects forward and get them done. They make the product, sell it, and answer customers’ questions.
  • Administrators: The process builders who plan, organize, devise protocol. They keep your organization running smoothly as you grow.
  • Integrators: The emotional centers who help everyone get along even when they view the world differently.
You want all four people in the room during big decisions, and all four on your management team. At the very least, you want each of these characteristics represented at your company, Gross says.
By the end of its first year, Pandora was already running out of money. Founder Tim Westergren went from pitch meeting to pitch meeting with no luck, and the company’s core team of 50 ended up going over two years without a regular salary. Looking back, Westergren credits this fortitude to several things: everyone’s pure love of the product; total transparency with his team no matter how bad things got; hiring carefully for people who would come together in a crisis rather than break apart; and knowing, as a leader, that he needed to be the first one in and the last one to leave every day. This didn’t just mean long hours — he went as far as paying salaries with his own credit cards. If you’re a struggling founder, you have the opportunity to put a positive spin on sacrifice.
Promoting work-life balance has its benefits, including driving down recruiting and operational costs — and opening your company up to a larger, often more experienced talent pool, says SurveyMonkey CEO Dave Goldberg. It guards against burnout and poaching, and makes it much easier to hire brilliant, seasoned executives who have families when you get to that point. In order to make this a reality, Goldberg had to walk his talk. Today, he leaves work at 5:30 p.m. “If you want to shape a culture and build a workplace with a diverse team, you need to prove it with your actions.”
“Remember, ‘good for now’ earns opportunities for ‘great’ later on,” saysJeffrey Kalmikoff, lead designer at Betable. Founders, designers and product leaders are all primed to strive for perfection, but this attitude can get in the way. To keep moving forward, teams need to get in the habit of taking on ‘design debt’ — that queue of tweaks and to-dos that could make existing features better eventually. When you’re moving at startup speed, the important thing is having the features out there at all.
Done is better than perfect. There does not exist a time when no product is better than product.
Aaron Levie has defied the odds in many ways — he’s a young founder who managed to scale Box 10x into a billion dollar business without compromising culture. He attributes much of this success to keeping the bar high on hiring, no matter how pressing the need to fill a role. To limit “desperation hires” at all costs, Levie’s instituted what he calls the 10-person test. “For anyone you hire, would you want them to be in the first 10 people at your company?” he asks. “If you’re hiring the 400th employee, you would still want that person to be in your original 10. There’s no reason you ever have to relax your standards. People do because of the need for speed and the need for growth, but you don’t have to if you put the right processes in place.”
Aaron Levie at Box headquarters.
A number of studies have shown that people perform better at math and science activities if 50% of the participants are women, making gender distribution a key priority. This is definitely true at Etsy, a company that increased its female engineering staff by 500% in one year. Its primary strategy: Providing grants for women to enroll in Hacker School, a three-month intensive training program. Immediately, applications from women skyrocketed, and the company ended up hiring eight last year alone. Etsy CTO Kellan Elliott-McCrea says the grants went a long way toward making the company more welcoming for women. If you’re interested in creating a more gender-balanced workforce he has the following advice:
  • Be serious but inviting. Make it clear the standards are still high.
  • Take a chance on more junior engineers with a wide range of skills; senior women engineers are hard to find.
  • Make it clear the interview process is about building things together, not just proving how smart you are.
25) Give people the “Sunday Test.”
Stripe won’t hire even the most outstanding candidates if they don’t fit the company’s engineering culture. To cut to chase on this question, CTOGreg Brockman uses the Sunday Test: “If this person were alone in the office on a Sunday, would that make you more or less likely to come in and want to work with them? If the answer is not a clear yes, then don’t make the hire. In the short-term, you might miss out on some really great people, but you have to play the long game.”
Hiring bad eggs can impact your ability to hire top talent in the future.
A tiny startup has much different needs than a company like Square or Dropbox. To right-size security strategy, Evernote CTO Dave Engbergrefers to the rule of tripling. Basically, when your company goes from 3 to 10 employees, or 30 to 100, the entire tenor changes and there are many new considerations. There are smart ways to approach securing your company’s data at every phase, but there’s one rule in particular Engberg recommends to make sure your efforts are on-point: “Only do something when the cost to implement a security measure is less than the risk you’re protecting against.” Otherwise, it’s easy to misuse valuable resources that you should be funneling into product development.
Matt Brezina is the CEO and co-founder of Sincerely, making it easy for people to send gifts from their phones. Previously, he co-founded Xobnito build better address books.
In the last year, Sincerely launched five successful products, made possible because it actually released closer to 15 — some were just behind the scenes. High-velocity development has allowed the company to learn more about what customers want and how to deliver at lower cost. But, as CEO Matt Brezina advises, achieving this speed requires a few hacks. First, he recommends testing off-brand. Create a separate developer account and ship product. You’ll see how people use an app without an official launch. Sincerely even tested in Canada to flesh out ideas before bringing products to its major market. Second, test on Android before building for iOS. “It takes quite a bit longer for an iOS app to get approved, and that’s a damper,” Brezina says. “With Android, you can have something in the Play Store within a few hours. So it’s worth testing small changes in your Android app and then implementing them on iOS if they’re working.”
Former RockMelt CEO (and current Yahoo Product VP) Eric Vishria has realistic expectations. He knows it’s virtually impossible to find candidates who are perfect and amazing across the board. Even if you do, hiring them is a long-shot. “Instead, you should hire for strength in a couple of areas that matter most to your business right now — someone who’s world-class in the area that is most impactful for you,” he says. “When you search for people, consider your short-term needs. Don’t think about what you’ll need two years from now. After 12 months, the person may scale, your business could change, you may have to replace them. These are all facts of life, but you’re not going to even get to 12 months if you don’t do this.”
2013 was a big year for Jeff Bonforte, the veteran company-builder who just sold his latest, Xobni, to Yahoo. His board helped a lot, but it took him years to learn how to use board members and meetings effectively. His number one takeaway: Don’t waste time feeling intimidated, put your board to work for you. “Once I learned the board was there to help and not judge, I became better at asking for things.” He started giving board members homework — everything from introductions to funders to recruiting top employees. To his surprise, they actually embraced the opportunity to be useful. Be bold, Bonforte says. “You can tell your board the talent you need and assign them to go get it for you.”
“Make sure you and your team celebrate the wins even when they are small,” says SinglePlatform Founder and CEO Wiley Cerilli. “I know it’s stressful being a CEO, but you have to celebrate with your team. Set goals earlier on that you can hit to build the team’s confidence in their ability to achieve them and your ability to properly set them.” With this in mind, Cerilli sends out a weekly email to the entire company detailing every department's goals. If they’ve been met, the team celebrates. They go go-karting. They ring a gong in the office. There’s ceremony around it. To drive this point home, he quotes Magic Johnson:
It's not whether you can be successful, it's how many people you can help become successful.

10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

1. Coming to the door to pick someone up.

I think we’ve all had it with the incredibly unromantic “here” text, and meeting up always seems to be more casual and platonic than the alternative. Of course, meeting someone from online or any circumstance like that would probably be the exception to this rule, but generally: the 30 seconds it takes to get out of a car or cab and knock on the door makes a huge difference.

2. Trying to dress really nicely for a date.

“Nicely” means different things for different people, so I think it’s just a matter of putting effort into how you put yourself together to go out with someone. It’s not about wearing suits and petticoats again, but just realizing that, whether or not we like to accept it, appearance does count for something, and we should do our best to make sure that our appearance says something about us, in whatever way we’d like it to.

3. Bringing flowers or other tokens of affection to the first date.

Now, many lucky ladies (and some men) I know get this regularly, and in fact, I have myself as well, but only ever with people I’d been dating for a while. I think there’s something to be said for bringing flowers to the door on your first date. It’s become uncool because it’s forward and it’s a gesture that confirms their interest, but we should definitely get past that idea and worry more about how we’re going to let someone know we really do care and appreciate that they want to spend time with us.

4. Going dancing that’s not grinding on a grimy club floor.

Whatever happened to this? Dancing for the sake of dancing, like fun, not essentially sex on a dance floor dancing. What’s a better way to literally shake off nerves than seeing them bust a really dorky move on a dance floor? And the art of slow dancing has generally been lost, though I’ve been one to do it in my living room with my slightly coerced significant other, and I’ll tell you he’s said on numerous occasions it ended up being one of the most romantic nights we had together.

5. Straightforwardly asking someone out and not calling it “hanging out.”

Or, as is very popular these days, “talking.” “Oh, we’re just… talking.” As in, seeing one another and speaking frequently as to get to know each other? So… dating? We’ve found these really convenient ways to skirt around the issue of having to put our hearts on the line, but honestly, it just ends up being messy and confusing for all parties involved. There’s no need to go back to the idea of courting or anything, unless you want to, but simply being direct about whether or not you’d like to go on a date with someone is a truly lost art, one that really shouldn’t be.

6. Additionally, being clear about when you’re “going steady.”

Oh, the awkward, “so… are we… you know… what are we?” talk. Classic. We should go back to asking one another if the other person would like to “go steady” or something. There’s something about asking them if they’d like to rather than assuming that you are or aren’t anything that’s just very cute, in my opinion.

7. Romantic gestures like writing poems.

Writing poems may not be for you, I know mine would look something like “Roses are red, violets are blue, I hate poetry but I love you.” I literally just made that up thank you please quote me when you inevitably post that gem on Tumblr. But seriously, like a handwritten letter in the mail or just surprising them with something you made even if it looks like the macaroni necklace you made when you were 5 is cute just because you tried and were thinking of them.

8. Turning electronics off and just being with one another.

I’m not sure there is anything worse than the person who picks up their phone and starts staring at it in the middle of dinner, or at any point while you’re together and having a conversation. I’m not anti-technology here (hello, I work for the Internet) but I am saying that there comes a time to turn it off and disconnect and remember what actually matters. People.

9. The general concept of asking permission for things.

It used to be principle for people to say: oh, when can I see you? Or, when could I call you? Rather than just assuming they can at any point. But I think that old concept could be applied to our modern world by just assuming that, unless told otherwise, you should ask permission to you know, touch them anywhere, take them out, call them at a certain time, etc. Once you’re in a relationship these things usually don’t require asking anymore, but some do, especially when it comes to sexuality. I once knew a person who said that they asked permission before so much as touching a girl’s thigh, and that always stuck with me.

10. Not assuming sex is to be had at any point in time.

Now, I’m certainly not saying it should go back to being a taboo that’s unspoken of, but we certainly shouldn’t expect it from someone on the third date, on the first date, because they’re being flirty, because you know they’re into you, or even because they agreed to go out with you. A date does not have to be a precursor to sex, and you shouldn’t be disappointed if it isn’t because you should never assume that it will be. It depends on the person you’re with and what they want to do. TC Mark

Why People Buy Perception and Not Reality

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” ~ Albert Einstein
It was well past 5pm and we were still at the office debating about how we should inspire our customers. We were debating the strategy to ‘be like Mike’ or to ‘be like Joe.’
To be like Mike, meant we would only use famous influencers to inspire our customers to purchase the product. The videos would need to be jaw-dropping and amazing, filled with never-before-seen action by names familiar within the sport.
To be like Joe on the other hand, meant our customers' personal videos would be the marketing. Instead of showcasing professionals we would make it easy for our customers to share their own videos online, resulting in their friends buying the product because they were so inspired by the timeliness [I would choose a different word here. “Timeliness” means “at the right time” or “in season”] of their videos.
Five years later and the category lost, it turns out the right answer was to be like Mike.
Over the years we came to realize that, for most of us, making an amazing video is really hard. Consumers are reluctant to share once they watch their own footage and realize that they rode a lot slower, their drops were a lot smaller, and the sounds were worse than they remembered.
In the end consumers were more inspired by the perception of what they could create versus the reality of their results.
So why is this?
You can find a wide variety of opinions about how perceptions are formed and why we create them. But the simplest answer is that perceptions are a form of stereotyping, which we use to recognize the patterns we want to see. These patterns can enable us to quickly draw conclusions that may or may not capture the truth of the situation.
Seymore Smith, an advertising researcher from the 1960s, found that people were screening what they saw based on their own expectations. In his research he noted that, “They do so because of their attitudes, beliefs, usage preferences and habits, conditioning, etc.” Seymore went on to conclude that people who like, buy, or are considering buying a brand are more likely to notice advertising than are those who are neutral toward the brand.
Seymore’s conclusion is powerful. It supports the notion that the more consumers that see your advertising in a favorable light, the more likely they are to buy. This helps to validate the old marketing adage, The Rule of Seven.
So does this mean that honest marketing doesn’t work?
Perhaps.
A recent study done by Alison Jing Xu and Robert Wyer asked men and women to rate beer and cleaning products after watching a series of commercials. What they found was interesting.
In cases where consumers were familiar with the category, gimmick advertising had a negative impact on their perception of the brand. While in cases where consumers were less familiar, they gravitated to commercials that used phrases they didn’t understand, assuming those phrases must be important.
In their conclusion they found that: “…puffery seemed to influence people who are not major consumers of your type of product, but it turns consumers away who are experts or have higher knowledge.”
The study didn’t conclude why this happens, but its findings begin to provide some insights into how you can engage your existing customers, while inspiring potential customers that have yet to hear about your brand.
If you are struggling with how to inspire your customers here are three things you can do.
  1. Find Their Motivation Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs is a great tool as you think about what motivates your consumers to use your product. More often than not, they are driven by a need to belong or a need for esteem. Axe taps into the masculine need to belong, while Land Rover provides an instant status symbol.
  2. Sell Emotion It’s easy to fall into a trap of telling people what you do. You’re so proud of your own product that you want to tell everyone the benefits associated with it. Instead, look at how brands like Red BullPatagonia, and Nike sell the emotion that their products are associated with. It’s not about the performance of the product, it’s about the lifestyle of the person using the product.
  3. Stretch Their Imagination This is the hardest of all, but stretch consumers minds with all the ways they could use your product.Pencil’s new video shows people using their product in a variety of ways, while GoPro displays videos that are well beyond what the average user can create. People fall in love with the potential.
As you think about winning a category and grabbing consumer mindshare, get uncomfortable with perception. If you don’t care about being the largest in your market and you only want to market exactly what your product does, than you better consistently deliver the most amazing product in the category. Otherwise you will be fighting the battle over minute features that no one cares about.
Perception
Cell phones will better connect us.
Reality
They distract us from being present.
Perception
Fast food burgers are delicious.
Reality
They are a combination of bread and overcooked meat.
Perception
Drink this beer and you will be like this guy.
Reality
This girl to guy ratio is about right.
Perception
Your surfing videos will look like this.
Reality
When you aren’t the best surfer in the world and don’t have a professional video crew.
Perception
This car is for driving to amazing, desolate locations.
Reality
Most owners just take the car to Safeway.
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India outrage after woman politician blames women for for rape

There has been outrage in India after a politician, who is also a member of a government panel for women, blamed women for rape.
Asha Mirje said women too were "responsible to an extent" for rape and that their "clothing and behaviour" played a part.
Women's rights activists, the Congress party and the main opposition BJP said her comments were "unacceptable".
Ms Mirje later apologised, saying it was her "personal opinion".
In India, where a rape is recorded every 22 minutes, scrutiny of sexual violence has grown since the gang rape and murder of a student on a bus in Delhi in December 2012.
Ms Mirje is a leader of the Nationalist Congress Party (NCP) that governs the western Indian state of Maharashtra. She is also a member of the Maharashtra State Commission for Women.
The controversial comments were made at a meeting of the party's women workers in Nagpur city on Tuesday.
Ms Mirje asked why the Delhi gang-rape victim, called Nirbhaya (meaning fearless in Hindi) because she cannot legally be named, "was out with her friend at night". She also commented on a photojournalist who was gang-raped while on assignment at the abandoned Shakti Mills in Mumbai last year.
"Did Nirbhaya really have to go watch a movie at 11 in the night with her friend? Take the Shakti Mills gang rape case. Why did the [survivor] go to such an isolated spot at 6pm?" news channel NDTV quoted her as saying.
"Rapes take place also because of a woman's clothes, her behaviour and her being at inappropriate places," she added.
Ms Mirje's comments have sparked outrage with women's groups and political parties condemning her statement.
The All India Democratic Women's Association said Ms Mirje was "not fit to be a member" of the Maharashtra State Women's Commission.
"This comment is totally unacceptable. A member of a women's commission should not make such statements. Women should talk about empowerment and not put under constraints of dress," news channelCNN-IBN quoted senior Congress party leader Rita Bahuguna Joshi as saying.
The channel reported that Ms Mirje had defended her remarks saying she was quoted out of context.
"The complete comment was not taken. Only a part of it was projected. I was not blaming the women for rape. I had said that since we are in period of transition, we have to be extra cautious," she said.
source:BBC

10 Things Happy Families Do Differently

“I sustain myself with the love of family.”
―Maya Angelou
Last night, an old friend from high school – a hometown success story and entrepreneur who owns and operates a large publicly traded company – a man whom I have a great deal of respect for – came over to our home for dinner.  After a delicious meal, he and I chatted for a couple hours in the family room and caught up on old times.  And as we wrapped things up, he said, “I admire you.  I admire the love in this home – the obvious love between you and Angel.  I admire the close relationships you’ve built and nurtured.  When I’m here it feels like I’m part of the family.  Nurturing a happy family is one of the things I never got around to.  So it was great to see it, feel it, and be a part of it tonight.  Thank you.”
When I sat down to write this morning, my friend’s remarks immediately came to mind.  Which got me thinking…  What does nurturing a happy family really mean?  What are some things happy families do differently?
Here are some thoughts to consider:

1.  Every day, every member chooses to be part of the family.

First and foremost, family isn’t always blood.  They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be.  Family members can be your best friends.  And best friends, whether or not they’re related to you by blood, can be your family.
Family is built with love; it’s not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and formal adoption documents.  Families grow from the heart, through mutual love and respect.  The only time family becomes nullified is when the ties in the heart are cut.  If you cut the ties, these people are not your family.  If you build the ties, these people are your family.  So build and maintain ties with the right people and nurture them with love every day.

2.  Family members go out of their way for each other.

Family bonds are tied with true love, and true love involves attention, awareness, discipline, effort, and being able to care about someone and sacrifice for them, continuously, in countless petty little unsexy ways, every day.  You put your arms around them and love them regardless, even when they’re not very lovable.  And of course they do the same for you.
If you want to know what a healthy family is, it’s one where each family member wakes up every morning and says, “This is worth it.  You all are worth it.  I am happy you are in my life.”  It’s about sacrifice.  It’s about knowing that some days you will have to do things you dislike to make the people you love smile, and feeling perfectly delighted to do so.  That’s what it means to “be family.”  (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

3.  Family sticks together through thick and thin.

“Being family” is also about supporting each other through life’s inevitable changes.  It’s knowing that your family will be there watching out for you through thick and thin.  Nothing and no one else will give you that.  Not your career.  Not your boss.  Not your clients.  Not money.  Not fame.
You can’t promise to be there for someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely be there for them for the rest of yours.  Stand by those you care about in their darkest moments, not because you want to stand in the dark, but because you don’t want them to either.  Brave the shadows alongside them until they’re able to find the light.  On the flip-side, stand by these same people on their sunniest days, not because you want to scorch your skin, but because you’re not afraid to let them shine bright.
And remember, timing is everything.  There is a time for silence, a time to let go and allow your loved ones to launch themselves into their own destiny, and a time to cheer for their victories, or help them pick up the pieces, when it’s all over.

4.  Everyone is permitted to be true to themselves.

The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated as is.  Sometimes we try to be sculptors, constantly carving out of others the image of what we want them to be – what we think we need, love, or desire.  But these actions and perceptions are against reality, against their benefit and ours, and always end in disappointment – because it does not fit them.
Remember, the foundation of love is to let those we care about be unapologetically themselves, and to not distort them to fit our own egotistical ideas of who they should be.  Otherwise we love only our own fantasies, and thus miss out entirely on their true beauty.

5.  Everyone takes responsibility for their own happiness.

Happiness is a choice that comes from within.  Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect, it means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.  There are choices you can make every day to feel the effects of happiness.  Choose to do something meaningful.  Choose to take care of your body.  Choose to be around the right people.  Choose a good attitude.  Choose to express gratitude.  Choose to forgive.  Choose to focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.
Begin today by taking responsibility for your own happiness.  The choice is yours.  Your family can support you, but they can’t choose happiness for you.  (Read Hardwiring Happiness.)

6.  Caring words are used to communicate, always.

You can measure the happiness of any close relationship by the number of scars that each member carries on their tongues and inner cheeks, formed over many years of biting back angry and insensitive words.
Bottom line:  Be careful what you say.  You can say something unkind in less than one second, but more than a year later the wounds are still there.  Don’t do this to your family, or anyone for that matter.  Every time words are spoken, something is created.  Be honest, but also conscious of what you say and how you say it.  Use words that build up, appreciate, encourage and inspire.

7.  The truth is upheld and promises are kept.

Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons families break up.  Because great things fall apart quite easily when they’ve been held together with lies.
The truth is, relationships don’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and twisting reality until it toys with someone’s emotions is what hurts.  Promises mean everything, but after they’re broken, sorry means nothing (at least initially).  So never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of your own.  If you are unsure in any way, be sure to say so.  Always be open and honest.  And remember that when the truth is replaced by silence, silence becomes a lie too.

8.  Everyone makes QUALITY time for each other.

Here’s a harsh reality of life:  Regardless of the quality of your relationships with your parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, or close friends, you will miss them when they’re gone from your life.  And someday they will be.
You have to set aside quality time to share your love openly and honestlywith those you love.  Realize that no matter how much time you spend with someone you care about, or how much you appreciate them, sometimes it will never seem like you had enough time together.  Don’t learn this lesson the hard way.  Express your love.  Tell your family what you need to tell them.  Don’t shy away from important conversations because you feel awkward or uncomfortable.  You never know when you might lose your opportunity.
So stay in close touch with what’s going on in your loved ones’ lives – communicate openly on a regular basis.  Not because it’s convenient, but because they are worth the extra effort.

9.  Presence is held sacred.

The greatest path to positive influence in any relationship is love.  And the greatest path to love is full acceptance within the present moment – allowing everything to be as it is, without hoping or trying to change things.
Presence is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in the “now.”  It’s about knowing that you must first attend to the reality of the moment before you can effectively contribute anything positive to it.  Practicing presence brings a sense of perspective and purpose to our lives, and opens the doorway to love others as they are.
Being completely present with someone is difficult, however, because it requires you to share yourself completely, vulnerabilities and all, and enter moments of unguarded honesty with this person.  And this person may hurt you, and you may hurt them too.  Yes, you will hurt each other sometimes.  But this is the very condition of full presence.  To become summer, means accepting the risk of winter.  To become present, means accepting the risk of absence.  (Read The Power of Now.)

10.  Patience and forgiveness are practiced daily.

No matter how honest and kind you try to be, you will occasionally step on the toes of the people closest to you.  And this is precisely why patience and forgiveness are so vital.  Patience is the ability to let your light shine on those you love, even after your fuse has blown.  And forgiveness is knowing deep down that they didn’t mean to blow your fuse in the first place.
Patience and forgiveness can be bitter at first, but the seeds you plant now will bear sweet fruit in the end.

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10 Extraordinary People and Their Lessons for Success

From presidents to hip-hop producers to poets, the last page of every issue of Harvard Business Review is always an interview with someone who has succeeded outside the traditional corporate world. Here, some of our favorite lessons from the class of 2013:
Justice Sandra Day O’Connor on having long-term colleagues:“Treat people well. Don’t mislead them. Don’t be prickly. Don’t say things that are aggravating. Try to be as agreeable as you can be. Try to be helpful rather than harmful. Try to cooperate.”
Cartoonist Scott Adams on using his MBA: ”When the comic strip first came out, it showed Dilbert in a variety of settings—not just the office. I didn’t really know what was working, because I had no direct contact with readers… So way back at the dawn of the internet, I started putting my e-mail address in the margin of the strip… I found out that there was a common theme: People loved it when Dilbert was in the office, and they liked it a lot less when he was at home or just hanging around. So Dilbertbecame an office-based comic, and that change made it all work.”
Chef Nobu Matsuhisa on starting as an apprentice: “I was 18 and didn’t know anything about fish. My mentor taught me the basics. For the first three years, I didn’t make sushi; I washed dishes and cleaned the fish. But if I asked questions, he always answered. I learned a lot of patience.”
Saturday Night Live producer Lorne Michaels on hiring: “I wouldn’t choose anyone whose side I didn’t want to be on. It isn’t like we hire 12 and figure six will work. We don’t bring in anybody we’re not rooting for. Sometimes they succeed in week five, but for most people it’s two, three, four years before they become who they’re going to be. You have to allow for that growth.”
Hip-hop mogul Russell Simmons on meditating twice a day: “Every creative idea, every second of happiness, is from stillness…. But the way you move around the world has nothing to do with the stillness in your heart. Moving meditation—that’s what we have to practice. It doesn’t mean you have to move slow; you just have to see the world in slow motion.”
Golfer Arnold Palmer on learning humility: “One time at Augusta, I was going into the last hole with a one-shot lead to win the Masters, and a friend from the gallery hollered at me, so I walked over and accepted congratulations. And then I proceeded to make six on the hole and lose. My father had warned me about that. I was told all my life not to accept congratulations until it’s over.”
Poet Maya Angelou on courage: “One isn’t born with courage. One develops it by doing small courageous things—in the way that if one sets out to pick up a 100-pound bag of rice, one would be advised to start with a five-pound bag, then 10 pounds, then 20 pounds, and so forth, until one builds up enough muscle to lift the 100-pound bag. It’s the same way with courage. You do small courageous things that require some mental and spiritual exertion.”
Designer Philippe Starck on persuading clients: “I’m very good at explaining. I don’t work like a diva. I don’t say, “Oh my God, that must be pink,” and refuse to discuss it… I am cuckoo, yes. I am the king of intuition. But I am also a serious guy. I explain in a clear way. And then, even if it’s something that looks completely different than expected, something completely against mainstream thinking, clients understand. I explain that it might look strange but why, given the two to five years it will take for development, it will for so many reasons be exactly the right thing to do… And then the clients agree, always, 100%.”
President Mary Robinson on being frank: “At every stage, it’s [a] passion for human rights that has prompted me to speak truth to power, to stand up to bullies, to be prepared to criticize even the United States after 9/11. People told me it wouldn’t help my career as high commissioner, but it seemed much more important to do the job than to try to keep the job.”
Historian David McCullough on hard work: “When the founders wrote about life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, they didn’t mean longer vacations and more comfortable hammocks. They meant the pursuit of learning. The love of learning. The pursuit of improvement and excellence. I keep telling students, ‘Find work you love. Don’t concern yourself overly about how much money is involved or whether you’re ever going to be famous.’ …In hard work is happiness.”

Single woman seeking part-time lover?

(CNN) -- Remember that old tune "Friday, I'm in Love"? Well, some daters are looking to make it a reality.
"I have found a wonderful weekend lover," reads a testimonial by "Leah, 38" on the new dating website, parttimelove.co.uk. "He asks for no more, and the times we spend together are magical."
The site, launched in early January, is the brainchild of relationship author and blogger Helen Croydon. Its target demographic is people who want to be independent but also want to fall in love, she says.
Some may wonder whether Part Time Love is simply the newest in a line of dating sites where users troll for one-night stands. But the site isn't just Tinder with a romantic sheen, if you believe its marketing spiel.
"We are not a no-strings website. We are for singles looking for regular partners with mutual attraction, genuine friendship, respect and a magical spark but whom have no expectations of moving in after three months and value their free time and independence," claims the site, which users must opt into via other, more established dating sites.
Croydon asserts that a low-maintenance or part-time relationship is distinctively different than the eloquently named "booty call," or the even more lucid "casual encounter" in that the goal is lasting love.
Croydon admits it's not for everyone. She envisions her demographic as users in their mid-to-late 30s and early 40s who are set in their ways and might find it difficult to adapt domestically to a new partner.
"They're realistic on the fairytale," she says.
In 2011, writer Laura Tennant wrote a column "We're happily semi-detached" in a British newspaper about her part-time cohabitation with boyfriend, Sean Walsh. She had just completed a difficult divorce -- "aren't they all?" she joked in an e-mail with CNN -- and wasn't sure she ever wanted to get married again. What she was sure of was that she and Walsh worked really well together as the relationship stood.
They were "living apart together," as she called it.
Fast forward to 2014, and now Tennant is engaged to marry Walsh.
"Over time, Sean and I have become more and more sure that we are each other's soulmate and life partner," she says. "And we have slowly but surely got to the point where we are ready to make the ultimate commitment to each other."
But, that doesn't mean they each won't have their alone time.
The couple is planning for Walsh to have a pied-à-terre, but not in the Ernest Hemingway sense.
"As it is, it is totally workable, albeit somewhat unusual," she says. "We are working out logistics at the moment, but I reckon we will live together and Sean will rent a work-live space nearby where he can write, sometimes sleep, and recharge his batteries."
Croydon explores what she calls "low-maintenance relationships" in her new book "Screw the Fairytale: A Modern Girl's Guide to Sex and Love," in which she debunks the traditional ideal of the omnipresent partner. Croydon says she never wants to get married or have kids. (She's also quite familiar with unorthodox dating styles; her first book, "Sugar Daddy Diaries," was about her penchant for older men.)
"You don't have to see someone three to four nights a week to express love," she told CNN over the phone from London.
"In every other aspect of life, we've gone for convenience, independence and where individualism is promoted," she says. "Yet, you have this socially approved model of relationship that you live together."
Croydon says for it to work, the partners' emphasis is still on a genuine relationship, in that there is romance and sparks but "without all the monotony and obligation of a full-time relationship."
Jill Weber, a Virginia-based clinical psychologist and author of "Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy: Why Women Settle for One-Sided Relationships"says this particular style of dating can certainly feel empowering as it allows daters to compartmentalize the relationship.
"It protects you; there's less vulnerability," she says.
Sooner or later, though, she says one or both partners might catch stronger feelings and want something more.
"Ultimately, what connects us with one another is being vulnerable," she asserts.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, Weber says it's also important for each partner to feel like they have their own life.
"You should feel safe and at ease in your relationship," she says, meaning that you aren't constantly worrying where your partner is and vice versa. If that's not the case, a conversation about space is in order. Failing that, it might be time to re-evaluate the healthiness of the relationship.
As for Croydon, she's still single and ready to mingle part-time.
Would you use a website to find a part-time lover? Share your take in the comments section below.